How to attract a gay top

Gay men have a reputation for having a three-word philosophy: Anything That Moves. There's a understanding that we can own whomever we want whenever we want for whatever we need. Not accurate. We throw a glare or a smile and if we get it back, SCHWING! But if we don't get it back -- and depend on me, mostly we don't the wheels come off. We're as threatened by beauty, tongue-tied by crushes, and paralyzed by apprehend as straight guys when they see a attractive woman.

That's why the reaction most gay guys acquire when they see somebody at a party or a bar goes something like this:

• Who's the cute guy in the corner and why isn't he looking at me? • I can't leave over there and utter something unless he looks at me, I just can't • If he were interested he'd glance back • Damn, he's not looking • I wouldn't know what to say, anyway • I'm lonely • How am I supposed to move on a date if I can't even face somebody? • God, he is so cute • This is ridiculous, just go talk to him! • But he's not looking • The last time I got the nerve to say something the guy just turned his back on me • WHY WON'T HE LOOK A

What Gay and Bi Men Really Want

Are physical and sexual attraction the most appealing qualities in a partner? Or are unseen qualities like good manners and reliability the most attractive?

Following on from his analyze into what direct women want and what straight men want, D&M Research’s managing director Derek Jones has taken the next reasonable step with his latest study into what gay and bi(sexual) men want.

In order to excavate deeper and sketch out a right list of turn-ons and turn-offs for gay and bi men, Derek once again used of the Im-Ex Polygraph method. He originally devised this technique of analysis to distinguish what people say they want from brands, products or services from what they really want by comparing stated versus derived measures of importance.

Qualities the gay and bi men said they desired in a partner (‘stated’) were compared to the qualities present in example celebrities they nominated as attractive (‘implied’). The equal comparison was made between stated and implied negative qualities, to determine what attributes are really the biggest turn-offs.

17 Pieces of Dating Advice for Gay, Bi, and Pansexual Men

Societally, people mostly view dating as a means to an close — be that orgasm or marriage.

“But dating itself can be the end,” says Ackerman. “Dating allows us to experience recent personalities, perspectives, physical intimacy, and lessons learned about what we do and don’t like.”

So don’t forget to enjoy the ride. Pun absolutely intended.

Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a queer sex educator and wellness journalist who is committed to helping people feel the best they can in their bodies. In addition to Healthline, her work has appeared in publications such as Shape, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Health, Self, Women’s Health, Greatist, and more! In her free time, Gabrielle can be found coaching CrossFit, reviewing pleasure products, hiking with her border collie, or recording episodes of the podcast she co-hosts called Bad In Bed. Follow her on Instagram @Gabriellekassel.

10 Seductive Ways to Court with Your Gay Boyfriend via Text

When flirting via text, the key is to be playful yet direct, to produce your interest known, and also to give them opportunities to do so. Flirtation is a boogie, with each person pushing and pulling at alternative points.

Here are some ways to make your texts so irresistible your spouse will have no option but to cancel all their plans to approach and be with you.

1. Tease Him

Teasing is a surefire way to display interest, especially in the early stages of digital dating. Gently poke fun at something he always does or says or a quirk he possesses. Just make sure you are teasing them in a way that is clearly joking rather than coming off unhappy or critical!

2. Send "Goodnight" and "Good Morning" Texts

This is a great way to create your interest clear. Who sends these kinds of texts to someone they just see as a friend? It lets a guy you're crushing on know he's on your mind. And if you're already dating, it lets him know he hasn't left your mind.

You can even add a legal title of endearment, like "good